What’s Your Core Strength?
“While at the flower store, ordering a nice bunch of orchids to honor the longest-term relationship I’ve ever had–with myself, I noticed that many people were more focused on what to get or do for their significant others, or what they were getting done for them, than how to celebrate their own selves.
“In fact, out of the 20 or so other people who were there, not one of them were wrapping up blooms from them, to them. When they found out I was, it was like a kitten had popped out of my jacket pocket. “Ohmigosh–That’s SO cute!,” they said, eyes wide with the sheer quaintness of it all.
“It struck me then, how weighted we can get towards our external offerings and relationships. It’s rare to see someone taking themselves out for dinner, and choosing the nice restaurant over the quick fix, or taking the time to appreciate themselves with a love letter, a kind remark or even the simple beauty of flowers. “ ~ Sadie Nardini
When I started reading Sadieâ€™s recent article, “What’s Your Core Strength?” (Yoga Journal) I couldnâ€™t stop. Her words are so fresh and inspiring â€“ and true.
I mean, as freelancers, how often do we truly appreciate ourselves? Our talent? Our bodies? Our health? Our time?
How often do we skip meals, lose sleep, push ourselves through sickness, exhaustion, blood-shot eyes, headaches? More often than not, right?
Why is it that we throw all of our love, passion, time, strength, mind, body and soul into our words, stories, books, characters, work, and give ourselves so little? Why do we strive to please our editors and clients â€“ yet donâ€™t give a thought to the simplest pleasure that we might enjoy?
We spend so much time working on creating, building, and nurturing the relationships with our editors, clients, fellow freelancers, and potential clients. Why is it then, that we find it so hard to have a relationship with ourselves? To be kind to ourselves? Take care of ourselves? Do something just for us?
Oh, yes, money is an issue. We give and give and give until weâ€™re all written out and our bodies and minds are worn out. Our bank account may be growing and expanding but our once youthful, cheerful, well-fed souls may be withering away to nothingness!
Is it hard to imagine treating yourself to a bouquet of roses â€“ just because? Does it seem impossible to spend your hard-earned cash on a massage, a new outfit, your favorite restaurant, or even just a stroll through the park or a leisurely day (or even hour!) spent watching a little TV, reading a book youâ€™ve been meaning to read, or taking that yoga class youâ€™ve been fantasizing about?
Life is so much richer when it involves vibrant relationships. But you donâ€™t have to be in a relationship with someone else to know that youâ€™re special. You donâ€™t have to receive a dozen roses from someone else to smile. And you donâ€™t have to be a freelancer to give yourself a little TLC.
If we can be as creative as we normally are without treating ourselves, imagine what a superhero we would be if we did!
You’ll have to excuse me, I have a date – with yoga and myself. After that, I’ll be refreshed and ready to greet my freelance life with a smile!
Do you having a love-filled, caring, sweet, thoughtful, compassionate relationship â€“ with yourself? Do you think itâ€™s silly? Do you think it sounds inviting? Do you love yourself enough to treat yourself better â€“ or at least as well â€“ as you treat your clients and editors, and expect others to? Have you ever written yourself a letter? Bought yourself flowers? Dined at a restaurant alone (on purpose)? If you could have any relationship with yourself, what would it be: spontaneous, encouraging, luxurious, simple? Can you be as faithful to yourself as you are to everyone else?
Photo credit: Michael Melrose